Thinking About … Infidelity

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  • Lou

    If you’ve been married a long time and need the strange, then become swingers. You both have fun, meet new couples and come home with your spouse without cheating.

  • Mushroom Cop

    Let’s see…..infidelity, hmmmm. I have always preferred Stereophonic High Fidelity myself……..Having found that “Love Is Lovlier, The Second Time Around” acutally is true, I lost all interest in “needing the strange.” My second wife is the most incredibly wonderful woman on the face of the earth. I may be one of the lucky ones, but relationships are what you make them. Make them a mess….and that is what you will have.

  • Jen

    I have been on both sides of this fence. When I cheated it was because I needed OUT of that relationship and nothing else seemed to get thru his skull. He refused to leave when I asked him to, changed the locks and he would just sit in the driveway waiting for me to come home. Took all his clothes and other crap to Mommy’s…he still would come over. He had to walk in on me and someone else to realize that it was over. So is that cheating? When one has moved on and the other hasn’t?

  • Kelly

    I always want to ask, “why did you get married?” when I find out that a spouse is cheating. It is absolutely disgusting that you would bother to make that vow if you don’t intend to keep it. I don’t intend to get married because I admit that I often listen to my body more than my mind and don’t know that I will always resist the urge for sexual pleasure outside of my relationship. I know this about me and refuse to marry due to it. I am fully honest in my unmarried relationships about it too, but there is at least no paperwork to shred or vows to be broken. I have no children to consider and do not want them. I think the whole mess was better when people got arrested for infidelity; when adultery was a crime that you had to pay for. Admittedly, people still fooled around on each other, but at least it was looked down upon instead of being something to strive for.

  • TxTiNK

    If you feel the need to cheat, then it's time to end the relationship and be fair to all parties. It sucks when people live a lie. If your relationship is strong and meant to last, you might end up back together. If not, better for everyone that you've moved on. The
    “other”, (not the “strange”) can pick up the pieces of their life and began healing, rather than finding out later they have been “investing” in a “sinking ship”. Think about how raped you feel (violated), when you get into a bad investment.

    Jen, I don't feel your infidelity really counts, I have had to do the same thing on several occasions though' not always to that degree.

    Kelly, if you feel that way, you should stand by who you are and be true to yourself. If this were another issue, I'd have to analyze your comments further and I would address them, as you sound much like I may have felt at times, but, kudos to you for not annihilating the people and their life, with lies. You are right, it would be better if infidelity was still a crime.

    It's such a shame, when everything you see seems to lead to sex, and often, not between a married couple.

    Recently I have felt something that was so seemingly innocuous as Match. com, has gone one step too far with their “It's okay to look” campaign. I hate the message it sends to our subconscious, but worse, what it says to my (our) now becoming adult children. I keep thinking I will contact somebody about how everything is inundating with SEX, SEX, SEX…. I can't put on the TV without seeing something within less than 20 mins that implies that sex is the “be all, end all”. Don't get me wrong, I think sex is GREAT!, but I, nor my children need everything to imply that's all there is. From Viagra commercials to Axe and back again, nearly EVERY commercial break has something to do with sex, even on the more intelligent stations (for lack of a better word). They run a Viagra types commercial nearly every commercial break. Really???!

    Just my “not so humble” opinion!